Dear Aria, something about listening

Baby girl, you are most likely turn out to be very bubbly just like your daddy and mommy. Being bubbly is a good thing if you are good at listening in order to speak intelligently in all the right situations.

In general, people want to express themselves more than they want to listen, however, you can only get the most out of listening.

Through listening, not only that you would be able to get a lot of information, if you are a skilled listener, you would be able to detect lies and listen to what people truly saying between lines.

Here are the 5 good reasons of listening:

• There are situations that people won’t be able to always tell you the truth, which you could only figure it out with your own listening experience.

• Every person is unique, and they have their own selections of words that they prefer to use, from listening to them, you could be able to look at a person’s characters and a bit of their history (from their accents and manners)

• Since people prefer expressing themselves than listening, being a listener would bring you closer to people, people tend to enjoy talking to a listener

• You can only act the best and fastest when you get all your facts right, so listening could help you achieve more in your life

• You would stop talking when you are listening and you would be amazed that how beautiful the sounds of nature and the backgrounds are.

Here are 5 tips on being a good listener:

• Sitting in the same level with the person you are listening to, this bring you closer to that person and it makes it more natural for that person to tell you the information.

• Psychologically, People tend to feel nervous about disclosing their thoughts when they are looking up to the listener, and they tend to be careful about the information they want to share when they are looking down to the listener. 

• Making natural eye contact with the people you are listening to, make them know that they have your attention, and this make them feel respect and comfortable in telling you the information.

• Acknowledging the information you receive by nodding, smiling, giggling or saying, “ I see”, naturally. 

• Ask questions every 5-10 mins, either on “why” or base on the information they give you and ask for information that is in a deeper aspect.

• Be sensitive about people’s feeling and show respect. Do not laugh at people’s misery although you find it amusing.  lol Control your facial expression try not to show judgments.

Being a good listener makes your speech smarter, more informative and it shows maturity, and you would often get extra information when people feel close / related to you, which is one of the skills that you need to master in life.

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